M-Spec Vincians

A guide and explanation for m-spec vincian identities

Definition

M-Spec vincians are vincians that experience attraction to more than one gender. While many vincians are monosexual and monoromantic (experience attraction to only one gender), this is not always the case.

There are more labels under the m-spec vincian umbrella. Common examples include bi-vincian, pan-vincian, poly-vincian, and omni-vincian.

With this said, it should always be assumed that vincians do not experience attraction to women or woman-aligned people unless specified otherwise. It should also be assumed that individuals who use the vincian label don't want to be labeled as m-spec (or anything under the m-spec umbrella), and vice versa, unless specified otherwise.

It is important to remember that someone else's identity cannot invalidate your own. You are separate people with separate experiences, as well as your own individual reasons for choosing the labels you use. Their identity has no bearing on yours. Labels are best used to describe people, not define people. People don't usually fit in neat boxes, and at the end of the day, people will describe themselves in whatever way they see fit.

Reasons for the Label

There are many reasons that one may identify with the m-spec vincian label, or labels under the m-spec vincian umbrella. Common examples include:

  • Experiencing attraction to all genders aside from binary women. While the vincian label alone can be used to describe this, some prefer to label themselves as m-spec as well. This is often done either to explicitly signal that they experience attraction to multiple genders, or to explicitly acknowledge that nonbinary genders are not "just men."

  • Experiencing attraction to all masculine or man-aligned genders. This is done for the same reason as the previous point.

  • Experiencing attraction to masculinity, but wanting a label less obscure than minsexual, androsexual, proquusexual, or similar labels.

  • Experiencing split attraction. This means one's romantic, sexual, and/or tertiary attraction do not align with each other. For example, one may exclusively experience romantic attraction to men, but experience sexual attraction to multiple genders. One may not want to refer to themselves as homosexual or homoromantic due to the heavily medicalized (and overall negative) history of those terms.

  • Experiencing attraction to multiple genders, but prioritizing one's attraction to men, or having a heavy preference for men.

  • Experiencing attraction that is fluid between m-spec and vincian. One may also identify with the abrosexual label.

  • Experiencing vincian attraction to men and lesbian attraction to women due to one's experience as a nonbinary person. Some may also label themselves as gai, lesbivincian, omnique, or similar labels.

  • Being unsure whether one is m-spec or a vincian, and using both labels as a result.

  • Using the vincian label synonymously with the achillean label (i.e. a way to say "I experience queer attraction to men," regardless of the other genders one may or may not be attracted to), often due to it being more well-known.

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